Sunday, February 22, 2009,10:24 PM
Woman
#2 Need of woman Conversation (15hrs/week)
- in order to relate, you need to talk to each other
- no communication = no relationship
- on average Man speaks 15000 words a day
- Woman speaks 30000 words a day
What do Man talk about?
- practical things
For Woman
- If you love me, you talk to me
- If you talk to me, it means you love me
Why do we have to converse?
- To converse is to meet each other needs (couples need to come to a point that they have mutual interest in order to spend quality time together.
*Phil 2:4
4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
腓立比書 2:4
4 各人不要单顾自己的事，也要顾别人的事。
- be interested in what the others are interested in.
*Col 4:6
6 Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.
歌羅西書 4:6
6 你们的言语要常常带着和气，好像用盐调和，就可知道该怎样回答各人。
- learn to converse in a caring word.
- conversation should be constructive
Man
#2 Need of man Recreational Companionship (included in the 15hrs/week)
*Col 3:18
18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
歌羅西書 3:18
18 你们作妻子的，当顺服自己的丈夫，这在主里面是相宜的。
- the couple that place together, stays together.
Woman
#3 Need of woman Honesty and Openness
- when there's no trust, there's no love relationship.
- knowing you includes the positive and negative sides.
- man and woman are married to shoulder each other's burden.
Man
#3 Need of man Attractive Spouse
*1Sam 16:7
7 But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the LORD does not see as man sees;[a] for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
撒母耳記上 16:7
7 耶和华却对撒母耳说：不要看他的外貌和他身材高大，我不拣选他。因为，耶和华不像人看人：人是看外貌；耶和华是看内心。
- wives, your husbands are not God.
Things to take note to stay attractive:
a) weight control
b) make up
c) hairstyle
d) clothes
e) cosmetic surgery
(if there's really a major flaw)
- physical attractive is making the others happy when they see you.
Ps: Man gets turned on by what they see (video people) on the other hand, Woman gets turned on by what they hear (audio people).
Man and woman are meant to be attracted to each other. For woman, if her man gives her constant showering of affection, even how nice other guys may treat her, she will not be attracted to them. Woman are very vulnerable, for them, the constant showering of affection from her man is a protective covering for her not to fall into temptation. As much as they wanna stay committed to their partners, we cannot deny the fact that there are always better and nicer people around that will meet their needs. So guys, as time goes by you all may get too familiar with each other, and will tend to forget how you used to treat your gal, you can forget everything I say but just remember one thing.
COURTSHIP IS FOREVER EVEN SHE'S YOUR GIRLFRIEND OR EVEN YOUR WIFE.
NEVER NEVER STOP COURTING HER. =)
to be continue...
With Love, ♥
★ Annabelle ★
★ Annabelle ★
Sunday, February 8, 2009,12:01 AM
*1 Peter 3:7
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
彼得前书 3:7
你们作丈夫的，也要按情理和妻子同住（情理原文作知识）。 因她比你软弱（比你软弱原文作是软弱的器皿）， 与你一同承受生命之恩的，所以要敬重她。这样便叫你们的祷告没有阻碍。
1) Sharing life (dwell with your wife)
- share your life with her
2) Considerate (understanding your wife)
- a life long process
3) Appreciate (giving honor to your wife)
- you will raise the value of your wife in your eyes
5 Basic needs of Man and Woman
Woman
#1 Need of woman Affection
*1 Cor 7:3 (NKJV)
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
哥林多前书 7:3
丈夫当用合宜之分待妻子，妻子待丈夫也要如此。
4 things basic elements of Affection (environment)
a) Security
b) Protection
c) Comfort
d) Support
Example basic form of showing affection
i) Hugging
ii) Sweet talk
etc...
Man
#1 Need of man Sexual Fulfilment (special event)
*1 Cor 7:4-5 (NKJV)
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
哥林多前书 7:4
妻子没有权柄主张自己的身子，乃在丈夫。丈夫也没有权柄主张自己的身子，乃在妻子。
哥林多前书 7:5
夫妻不可彼此亏负，除非两相情愿，暂时分房，为要专心祷告方可，以后仍要同房，免得撒但趁着你们情不自禁，引诱你们。
to be continue...
With Love, ♥
★ Annabelle ★
★ Annabelle ★